A stunning proportion of American children are trauma survivors, particularly in inner cities and other low-resource settings. However, most adults don't understand the difference between a "bad" child and a traumatized one. This article explains the difference and offers some new tools to help us soothe children and teach them how to relax themselves.
Teaching Children to Calm Themselves
http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/03/19/first-learn-how-to-calm-down/